Thursday, June 28, 2012

Make your own Tribe

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The best way to thrive in the best of times, and survive the worst is simply to reconcile with this aspect of our social DNA or instinct, realize that we are hardwired for tribalism and simply do what comes natural by resurrecting the tribe.

It already exists in our society yet in a diminished or deviated form. In order for States to reconcile all the various cultures in a reign for subjugation, it must first beak down their Bastard Feudalistic system, it must find a way to wane the loyalty that people have to their family and clan, and steer that zeal into the state through patriotism, nationalism, and the like, or as they say; the best quality of a leader is to “unite the people”.  As a result of this break down  people find other ways to fulfill the need for tribalism; some benevolent and some detrimental, whether is a street gang, Order of chivalry, or secret society people are always looking for a way to reconnect with that which is lost.

Some of our  symptoms of disconnecting with our tribal behaviors are having children born without fathers or any positive male role models, as a result a generation of men express themselves with effeminate behaviors through social fads such as emo, metrosexualism, or hipsters, or going to the other machismo extreme and over compensating by punching holes into things when angry. We are a society where men do not know how to be men, and it is because our elders have been stripped away by secularism, and neo-liberalism, our elders have been replaced by marketing corporations and the corporate media machine. Each girl is to have a princess complex and act like a spoiled princess (not a lady) and each man is to have swagger.This top down management of our society it taking the power from us the sovereigns and giving to the lot that has turned our world into what it is today, It is like looking through a funhouse mirror and seeing a distorted reflection of our people, and culture. 

To come back full circle here; what we need to do is reestablish the tribe, it can be through family ties, a strong group of friends or even your church. The point is, you are going to do it anyway, and you might as well do it with a stable and harmonious group, and start living your life as it was meant to be lived, with an inner connection to you kith, kindred, and the land.


You need elders who have earned their knowledge, and willing to pass the wisdom down to you and future generations. Until recently anyone who was old was considered wise and worthy of veneration, one had to actually be cunning, and wise to survive such extreme environments, one had to know and use the old ways to thrive, sadly it is no longer the case. The strongest no longer thrives, it the one who complains and simply breeds the most that dominates our society. So choose your elders wisely, insure that they are just, stable, and embody all of the virtues that you one day wish to master.  They will be the anchor of your tribe, and guide it into the future.


Camaraderie is not only enjoyable it should be mandatory; it is the glue that holds a group together, this empire may not endure but the bonds and relationships you have created will endure through celebration and calamity. This is already done on many levels, formal and informal, but perhaps something a little more ceremonial should be done to solidify these relationships for a more permanent basis. To bind one’s self to his or her peers builds lasting relationships that span generations, and gives a person friends and family to count on in times of crisis.

Commendation Ceremony
This should be done before you Elders and could be done as a Commendation ceremony between equals. It consists of two parts the act of homage, and the oath of fealty, in the act of homage portion of the ceremony one would appear bareheaded and weaponless as a sign of his submission to the will of the other and kneel before him; he would then clasp his hands before the other in the ultimate sign of submission, (the standard Christian attitude of prayer), and would stretch his clasped hands outward to the one standing.

The one standing in turn grasped the kneeler’s hands between his own, showing he was the superior in the relationship. The one kneeling would announce he wished to become "your man", and the one standing would announce his acceptance. The act of homage would be complete. The peers would then trade places, and do it again. In the oath of fealty portion of the ceremony the people binding themselves would then place their hands on a Bible, or a saint's relic, and swear they would never injure each other in any way and to remain faithful.

An example of an oath of fealty: "I promise on my faith that I will in the future be faithful to the lord, never cause him harm and will observe my homage to him completely against all persons in good faith and without deceit."

I cannot stress how important rites of passages are to members growing up, here is an article about a man who it taking his sons on a backpacking trip when they turn three. Another I have heard of is when the child turns 18 they take the child’s mattress out of the house in a procession to a safe place and the new adult lights it afire, and from that day on is treated as an adult and is no longer allowed to live in the home. We have many in our church with weddings, baptisms confirmation and the like, within the military through boot camp and crossing the line,  and other organizations, do not profane these, in fact relish in them, for they are putting down roots for the future members of your group.

When we do not provide rites of passage people tend to create their own and these are not always healthy, when I was an adolescent we created our own rites of passage as all groups do, one unofficial rite for our group of young adolescent males was to loose one’s virginity, others include jumping from cliffs into a lake, or just seeing how much risky behavior we could get into. There was a need to constantly prove ourselves as men, and the reason in-part for this desire of validation and justification was that there was no clear point in time to tell us that we had made it.

Puberty is one of the most traumatic things to happen to a young person at that time in their life, they go from being the masters of their reality, and knowing everything thing there is to know about play, pretend, and what it is to be a kid, to being at the bottom of a social structure that they know nothing about. It has its own rules, mysteries and hierarchy, not only is that bad enough but it has not been really told to these people that they actually belong to this new system. They feel like outsiders to the bottom rungs of a social structure that is so new and mysterious that they do not know how to behave. And this is why in the past elders in their infinite wisdom set up healthy rites of passage to give these youngsters a sense of belonging to anchor themselves through these turbulent times.

Rites of passage for my son will when he hits puberty I will take him hunting/camping and on his first kill, we will cook /devour the heart, and tan the hide of the animal. I will tell him that from now on he is a man and will be considered as such in our family that he will be present at all adult conversations with regards to the direction of the family and will be allowed to take part. That with this new privilege comes new responsibility, and that he must walk the path of a man and gentleman. I have no doubt that my son will join in on risky behavior or have stirrings in his loins, but hopefully his need to do things as need for validation will be mitigated, if there is one thing that society likes in its men it is confidence (not arrogance) and at the very least my son will be confident in his place in society.  

Rites of passage have three phases: separation, transition, and reincorporation, as van Gennep described. "I propose to call the rites of separation from a previous world, preliminal rites, those executed during the transitional stage liminal (or threshold) rites, and the ceremonies of incorporation into the new world postliminal rites.”

In the first phase, people withdraw from their current status and prepare to move from one place or status to another. "The first phase (of separation) comprises symbolic behaviour signifying the detachment of the individual or group ... from an earlier fixed point in the social structure." There is often a detachment or "cutting away" from the former self in this phase, which is signified in symbolic actions and rituals. For example, the cutting of the hair for a person who has just joined the army. He or she is "cutting away" the former self: the civilian.

The transition (liminal) phase is the period between states, during which one has left one place or state but has not yet entered or joined the next. "The attributes of liminality or of liminal personae ("threshold people") are necessarily ambiguous."

"In the third phase (reaggregation or reincorporation) the passage is consummated [by] the ritual subject." Having completed the rite and assumed their "new" identity, one re-enters society with one's new status. Re-incorporation is characterized by elaborate rituals and ceremonies, like debutant balls and college graduation, and by outward symbols of new ties: thus "in rites of incorporation there is widespread use of the 'sacred bond', the 'sacred cord', the knot, and of analogous forms such as the belt, the ring, the bracelet and the crown.” (link to source)

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